Dynamics of Single Motherhood
by: jameswalsh
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Otherwise it may be that she does not consider him to be appropriate in the role of a father. Single motherhood may be a result of either divorce or the death of the husband.
Irrespective of the causes behind it, whether it is a conscious decision or the result of being ditched or divorce or as a result of bereavement, the dynamics of single motherhood are same for all women. It is a difficult and truly challenging task for any woman to raise her children without the support of a male in his capacity as the father of the children. As it is, parenting itself is a challenging task, to be thrust by choice or fate into single motherhood is an even more difficult situation to face.
Being a single mother, the woman may get overwhelmed by the sheer responsibility. She will have to be the head of the family and take charge of not only the regular chores of the house, but other issues also. The woman may have to spend considerable time and energy on work in order to make the two ends meet. Merely keeping the household finances in order may impact the woman to such a degree that all other things might take a backseat.
Ultimately the fact of the importance of a father for the children cannot be understated. He is not only the fix it all for the family members, he is also the shoulder for the woman to rely upon. Being a single mother the woman will have to take on these roles also. This may be the most difficult aspect of her life. It is very difficult to act as both father and mother simultaneously. For this the mother has to become strong and be forever prepared to face the changing face of everyday reality with poise.
Being a single mother will translate into being there for the kids all the time. That will mean going to the daughter’s dance performance and the son’s football match. Yet the mother will have to meet the challenges with smile and ensure that she does not take out her frustrations on the children.
Spending quality time with the children is of greater importance, now that they have only one parent. The mother must remember not to speak ill of the father, even if it is a situation where the woman feels that she has been unfairly treated. She must keep in mind that while he may not have been a good husband, he might be a good role model as a father for the children. Suppressing the natural urge to win her child’s support and giving the father his rightful due can be a difficult proposition for a single mother.
The single mother will have to be doubly sure of her finances. All aspects of the same must be taken into full consideration. There will be the regular household expenses such as the electricity and mortgage to be taken care of. Besides this the children’s education and sundry needs will also have to be taken into account seriously.
If the woman is a single mother out of choice then she must let the child or children, as the case might be, know of the same. This issue should not be kept under the wraps and if the circumstances permit, then the identity of the father should also be disclosed.
As a single parent the mother may turn overprotective to her children. This should be avoided at all costs. Otherwise the children may become over dependent or turn into rebels after they have grown up. The woman will have to let the children be and let them live their own lives.
It must be remembered that the children will need the loving embrace of a mother and the strong scolding of the father also. Both roles of a father and mother will have to be played as much as possible.
About the Author
James Walsh is a freelance writer and copy editor. If you would like more information on how to get a quickie Divorce see http://www.quickie-divorce.com
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